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David
03-28-2011, 07:54 PM
Today I learned of some horrific news. My little brother from Big Brothers was in horrible car accident yesterday afternoon. He got a ride in a 18 year old girls new sports car and it ended badly. He died from the injuries. I’m just sick and in a fog that wont lift.

I had been his Big Brother for approx 5 years and remember meeting him like it was yesterday. He was about 12 years old after we were matched in the program. He was a little guy who had challenges that no kid deserved. That first day, I told him I liked working on cars, he wasn’t as enthusiastic and thinking old beaters, I had something else in mind, and he eventually came around…

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Tim and I the first day we met.

Over the years, we met every week and spent a day together. Much of the time was spent working in the shop on the GTM, playing video games, or eating at our favorite Chinese Restaurant. Tim became like a real brother and some respects a son Mary and I never had. Over the years, he was developing into a person that everyone who knew him, was incredibly proud of.

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Dan Pellow, Tim, Russ Thompson, me and Tracy Work.

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Tim standing by the GTM at Knotts.

He knew so much about the car that he spent the entire day educating potential FFR customers about the specs and the build process.

Tim had some of the same challenges with school that I did when I was his age and despite that he got on the honor role several times, was nearing graduation and making plans for what College to attend. He was incredibly bright, but still a humble young man. A goof ball a heart… I remember a time he showed up at the house with these crazy big, bright green sunglasses… It wasn’t about being cool for Tim… it was about being Tim. If only I was as comfortable in my skin as Tim was at his age.

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Tim at my dad’s 70th Birthday hanging with my brother. He had grown another half a foot since this picture about a year ago.

As we go through life, we have a choice of succumbing to our environment or circumstances, or taking a stand and doing better. Tim was one of those young people who was making the best of it… I am just so proud of him and what he was making of his life. The loss is so tragic in the sense that he was just getting started in life. Yet I am incredibly proud of the man he was developing into and I’m so thankful I told him that near every day we hung out together. Luckily there was very little if anything unsaid between us. Just about a month ago he was up to the house and he genuinely thanked me for being in his life. It’s the first time that he openly said something and it really meant a lot.. I know he appreciated our time together, but he didn’t really verbalize it. Im so thankful he did.

We had txt messaged just Saturday, the day before he passed with plans to hang out next weekend. My only regret is that we would have spent more time together lately. You know how you get busy and let life get in the way of what matters most.

If I can encourage any of you to do one thing in Tim’s spirit. Tell the people you care about you love them and support them and make time for them often. You never know when it might be too late. That, and don’t give young kids sports cars.

Tim, I miss and love you kid… Im proud of you! Say hello to God from us... I know he has big plans for you.

Until that day we meet again.

David

Randy Jones
03-28-2011, 08:07 PM
David,

I can't tell you how sorry I am to hear of you loss. Truly tragic. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Randy

David Hodgkins
03-28-2011, 08:18 PM
I'm sitting here in tears David...

So, so sad. I'm so sorry for the loss that you and Mary have suffered, and you all, especially Tim, are in my thoughts and prayers.

We can never count on tomorrow. All we can do is try to make a difference today. You both did that with Tim, and I'm sure he's smiling down on both of you now.

May God grant you and Mary the peace of knowing that Tim is with him now, and in a better place.

Lesa and I send our sincere condolences to you David.

God Bless...

Garry Bopp
03-28-2011, 08:28 PM
David,

It must be terrible to lose a brother. You have been a brother to someone that needed you ... there is no higher calling. God Bless you and Mary for your love and caring for this young man.

Garry

Jeff Collins
03-28-2011, 08:43 PM
David
I am so sorry.

riptide motorsport
03-28-2011, 08:52 PM
Thoughts and prayers.................Steven

Mike N
03-28-2011, 08:54 PM
Wow. David I'm so sorry to hear of your loss but make sure to continue treasuring the memories that you have of the great times you obviously had together. It's just so sad to have lost someone with so much potential.

foreyes
03-28-2011, 09:18 PM
So sorry to hear about Tim. What a tragic loss to all of us.

spdnman
03-28-2011, 10:03 PM
So sorry to hear of your loss. I was in a near fatal accident 2 years ago, so I understand how sudden and tragic this is. Please remember the great times you shared and know that he was eternally grateful to you for the bonds you shared.

Someday I Suppose
03-29-2011, 08:14 AM
David, just wow, there aren't words. I am so deeply sorry for your loss, it sounds like Tim was a heck of a young man, godspeed.

JUST RICK
03-29-2011, 08:59 AM
David,I lost my son in a auto accident I know of the fog your speaking about.

Mustang Man
03-29-2011, 10:14 AM
What a great loss, to you, and our future. My condolences and prayers to all involved...

Mark

johngeorge
03-29-2011, 10:28 AM
David, sorry for your loss. My condolences to his family.

first time builder
03-29-2011, 12:36 PM
All I can say is, well cant say anything to choked up !

Kenny

AJ Roadster NJ
03-29-2011, 01:29 PM
David,

I cannot imagine your grief. My family and I are sending thoughts and prayers out for both you and Tim. You should be proud to have played such a positive role in Tim's tragically short life. I think about the ways I spend my spare time and I come up pathetically short to the thing you've done. Good on you.

AJ

OttawaFFRer
03-29-2011, 02:00 PM
I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

Vic

AZJoker
03-29-2011, 02:55 PM
I am so sorry.

keys2heaven
03-29-2011, 03:55 PM
It is so terribly sad to read something like this. It's never easy when anyone dies, especially those who seem to have their whole life in front of them. We'd like to question, "why now" and "why them", but only God knows. I have to believe that when I read of such tragic news that, ultimately, good will come from it. It may not manifest itself for years, but it gives me hope to believe this.

David, just think of what his life might have been like if you weren't in it. God bless you, your family and Tim and his family during this time.

Questor
03-29-2011, 05:02 PM
There are no words. Sorry.

cmainor
03-29-2011, 05:42 PM
My prayers are with you and Mary as you cope with this loss. God bless you for the positive impact you had in Tim's life.

--Cliff Mainor

The Stig
03-29-2011, 06:46 PM
David,

Hang in there Buddy. There just aren't any words to say how sorry we are to hear about this.

Our thoughts and prayers are certainly with you guys.

Mike & Pam

Hankl
03-29-2011, 07:11 PM
David,

Really sorry to hear this, but it should be said, that you contributed so much to his life. I know that both of you made this world a better place, for knowing each other.

Hank

David
03-30-2011, 11:32 AM
Guys, I cant thank you all enough for the kind words, prayers and thoughts. It really means a great deal to Mary and I. Thank you all...

David

JJ'snakepit
03-31-2011, 12:18 AM
David My sincerest condolences for your family and Tim's. Prayers have been sent.. I am sure that God will bless you for being there for Tim.. JJ

VeniceCobra
03-31-2011, 12:13 PM
David
I don't know you, nor Tim nor Mary, but reading Tim's tragic story really moved me. I'm so sorry for your loss.